PRAGMA

No, men and women do not fall in love the same way. There are major differences. When I was younger, I thought love is love. As I grow older I come to realise that there are major differences between the two sexes. 

Men fall in love with the person

This is very simple to explain. And if you think of the last time you went on a date, a man can fall in love instantly with the looks of a woman. Way before he falls in love with her character. Ideally, of course, he falls in love with both eventually. 

A man is visually oriented and identifies physical characteristics about a potential partner from a distance. Ever wondered why men at a bar or club approach women from afar? That’s why. 

The nature of a man is to hunt. What he needs to do that is great vision and eye sight. The primary sexual traits of a woman will always catch a man’s eye first before he learns about her character.

In fact, he might even accept flaws in her character that he would normally not.

Women fall in love with the Energy of a person

A woman in general falls in love with the energy of a man. She senses his abilities, strengths, weaknesses and potential. She is answering questions in her mind within a split second: Can he provide? Can he protect? Has he got goals? Has he got his life in order? Is he honest? How does he treat the people around him?

First and foremost, women are attracted to a man’s energy. Not so much his body. Ever wondered why highly successful men have it easier to attract a woman, even way younger women? That’s why. In order to be successful and make it in life, a man will have to develop certain characteristics that make him a good provider, protector, and carer for the family.

Ultimately, that’s what every woman desires: A family, a home.

What about Breakups?

Breakups are tough. And if you think of the last time you broke up with someone - or they broke up with you - you’ll probably still feel pain in your heart. If you loved them truly.

Although men express mental toughness and show less emotions than women (that’s good, by the way), it needs to be made clear that men can suffer more from a breakup than the female counterpart.

When a man falls in love, he’s in it. He goes all out. No holding back. Provided that he truly falls in love and doesn’t play games like a boy who still has to learn.

Why is a breakup so much harder for a man? The answer lies in how men and women fall in love. Men do care about the energy of a woman, too. But they fall in love with the person as a whole. They portrait that person as the “total package”. His partner cannot be replace, is what he thinks.

A woman, on the other hand, as we have discovered, falls in love with the energy. Not the person per se. The person can be interchangeable as long as the energy that a woman desires to be with is present.

Hence, it is easier for a woman to shut her heart and cut off her feelings for a specific person who has failed to have or develop the energies that she desires from her partner in a relationship.

How to use this for your relationship?

Once you have accepted the differences between men and women and how they fall in love, express their love, develop their love, you will find it easier to apply that in your relationship.

There are specific things that you can do and practice in order to have a great relationship with your significant other. 

Click here to learn more.